1. Be part “Life of the party” and part “Bride’s Personal Assistant”
A main chunk of your responsibilities as a bridesmaid is making sure the bride, and her guests are breaking it down on the dance floor and having a memorable time that’ll shine through each Instagram photo.
You may have been her sidekick in middle school and her wing woman in college, but now, you’ll also take on the role of her personal assistant. Making last minute trips to the drugstore for eyelash glue, helping her lick her wedding envelopes shut, and being her DIY centerpiece muse.
2. You Don’t Have to Say Yes
There’s the engagement party, the bridal shower, the bachelorette party, the dress fittings, the bridesmaid dress shopping, the random bridesmaid get togethers in between. You don’t have to make it to every event — but you do have to let the bride know in advance if you can’t.
3. If You Have 99 Problems, Don’t Let the Bride Know One
That’s what the maid of honor (should be) for — use her as a buffer or as your go-to when you have any kind of problem or concern about the wedding
4. If Money is One of Those Problems
Being a bridesmaid costs money. A lot of money. So stick with rule number two — and only say yes to things you can afford to say yes to and let the bride or the maid-of-honor know in advance any money constraints you have. Another pro.tip: bring up the conversation of starting a bridal party budget early on. That way, when the planning begins for the bridal shower and the bachelorette party, everyone is on the same page with how much the bridesmaids can spend.
5. Not So Fast! The Job Doesn’t End When She Says “I Do”
After the wedding, you may be asked to help with sorting gifts of give the bride advice on which photos she should use for her wedding album. Just because your time as a bridesmaid is over, being the brides friend is something you pinky swearerd for life, didn’t you?
Jen Glantz is a “Professional Bridesmaid” and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She’s the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.