Should Some Wedding Traditions Stay In The Past?

Post by Kimberly Tweedy; WedPics Blogger      |   About Kimberly


Almost every part of a wedding has certain traditions tied into it, usually which originated to bring good luck, good karma and happiness to the bride and groom.

While weddings are filled with some very lovely and romantic customs, there are also those that are a little…um, unusual yet popular nonetheless! For example, there is the bouquet toss, the garter ceremony, or smashing cake into each other’s faces (Okay…that one is a little obnoxious…NOT a great way to start off a marriage)!  Although some couples choose not to incorporate these into their special day, they are still a common tradition followed by many

This brings me to a current topic of conversation between between me and my fiancé …the Bridal Dance, or what he likes to call “Red Rover.” Where I grew up, it was unusual NOT to attend a wedding and participate in this dance. Only after moving out of the area did I realize not every part of America embraces this unusual tradition. For those of you who aren’t familiar with this dance, from what I understand, the origin comes from either Polish or Slovak descent.

If you’re intrigued, check it out below (Note:  Mullets and lavender cummerbunds  are optional)

Overview of the Bridal Dance (also known as the Dollar Dance, or what my fiancé likes to call it–Red Rover):

  • The bride starts off a polka with her father. (I’ve learned that the name of the polka for this dance is called “Pani Mloda.”)
  • Guests begin to line up to put a dollar into an apron held by the maid-of-honor, and to do a shot of whiskey.
  • Guests then do a few quick spins with the bride, and begin to make a circle around the bride.
  • As the line to dance with the bride gets shorter, the circle begins to get larger, and the guests start to close in around the bride. The reason for this is to ensure that the groom can’t break through the circle to get to her.
  • The last person to dance with the bride is her mother. The bride continues to dance with her mother in the middle of the circle as the groom tries to break through the crowd. Try is the operative word here, because the more he tries, the more the crowd makes an even tighter circle around the bride.
  • After much pushing and shoving, the groom breaks through, swoops up his bride, and heads toward the exit.
  • But wait! There’s more! Now that groom has rescued his bride from the crowd, guests now attempt to steal her shoes on the way out the door. Why do they do this? Because the lucky winners of the sweaty bridal shoes receives [dramatic pause]… a bottle of whiskey!

Because this dance typically happens at the end of the reception, where the guests do a shot of whiskey, and then to try to push the groom, you can see why my fiancé feels this is a recipe for disaster.

He has warned me that if I really want to go through with this riot dance, I shouldn’t complain when I land on my bridal butt from all the pushing and shoving. I do worry what will happen though if someone tries to steal my Manolos. That will make me upset!

Does anyone have any interesting traditions that you’re incorporating into your wedding? Or perhaps you feel you’re better off leaving them out?

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