QUESTION: What is a post-wedding brunch, and do I need to have one after my wedding is over?
Kaella's Answer: First and foremost, you are not obligated to have a post-wedding brunch. That said, you may feel like the wedding went by so quickly, you didn’t have time to talk to many of those closest to you. A brunch is a wonderful way to get your guests together for one last hurrah before the wedding weekend is over. This can be especially nice when many of your guests are from out of town and you do not get to see them often, but as I mentioned, it is not a requirement. There are no rules on who hosts the brunch. It can be the bride and groom, a parent, friend or relative. If you do choose to have one, it doesn’t have to be a formal affair, but it’s generally nice to keep it close to where the wedding took place. You can have the brunch in a restaurant, or even in the host’s home with a buffet of brunch food selections. It’s nice to provide some grab’n’go items for those guests who have to catch a plane or get on the road early and cannot stay for the entire brunch. Formal invitations to the brunch are not required, and you don’t even have to invite the entire wedding guest list. Course, if you aren’t inviting everyone, don’t announce the brunch to your entire wedding or put it on your wedding website.
Rachel's Answer: A post-wedding brunch is typically held the morning after the wedding with close friends and family. Much like Sunday brunch in college, it’s a way to recap the night before and eat delicious foods to take the edge off your hangover. Personally, I was more excited for the post-wedding brunch than my actual wedding (which is why we’re now just having a brunch wedding), but you definitely don’t have to have one! A lot of couples want to spend their first day as husband and wife alone, but others want to spend it with immediate family and the bridal party. (In the case of a destination wedding, couples will often invite everyone to the post-wedding brunch.) The post-wedding brunch is usually laid-back and, if it’s just close relatives, a good time to open your gifts!
About our Kaella & Rachel:Kaella Wilson is the founder of Kaella Lynn Events, a wedding planning and design boutique based in San Francisco. She believes the difference is in the details. Whether you’re planning a grand event or an intimate celebration, Kaella combines artistic design with meticulous planning and management to produce a memorable event that represents your style. Follow her on twitter @Kaellalynn
Rachel Wilkerson is a writer and community manager living in sin in Houston, TX. She also happens to be planning her wedding! You can see more of her writing on her brand-new blog The House Always Wins. Follow her on twitter @RachelGettingIt.
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