QUESTION: Everyone at my office knows I’m getting married, and it’s been a topic of conversation for almost a year now. Does that I mean I have to invite everyone who’s talked to me about the wedding to the actual big day?
RACHEL'S ANSWER: You don’t! It would probably be good to come up with a policy for how you want to handle it so that there’s less potential for hurt feelings. You could choose to not invite any of them. But if you want some of them there, think in groups or categories. For example, you may invite all the coworkers whom you’re close to who are also at the same level as you, but not invite any of the higher-ups. Or you could invite just the people on your immediate team but no one from other teams.Doing it like this makes it clearer to those not invited exactly how you chose, so there is less room for hurt feelings.
Finally, I’d tell the coworkers you are inviting exactly who else from work will be invited so they won’t say, “What are you wearing to A’s wedding?” and then have to deal with that awkward moment when both people realize this person wasn’t invited.
This was a guest post by our friend Rachel Wilkerson. Rachel Wilkerson is a writer and community manager living in sin in Houston, TX. She also happens to be planning her wedding! You can see more of her writing on her brand-new blog The House Always Wins. Follow her on twitter @RachelGettingIt.
See more of Rachel’s previous posts here:
- How to choose your bridal party
- Choosing a wedding venue when everywhere is a destination
- Dealing with Wedding Snark
- Five wedding gift etiquette rules that make no sense
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