QUESTION: Do I need to bring a gift if I’m going to a far-away destination wedding?
ALLISON'S ANSWER: Most of the time if you are going to a destination wedding the couple will explicitly say “no gifts”. If not, honestly your best course of action is to ask. You are already spending a lot on their wedding and often times even if the couple forgets to say it, they aren’t expecting gifts. But to make sure the couple doesn’t get upset that you never gave them a gift (that happens) you’re better off asking!
ASHLEY'S ANSWER: The short answer, it is never expected that you bring a gift to a destination wedding. Gifts are always appreciated. However, if you are asking your guests to travel from afar to attend your wedding, it should be in the bride and grooms best wishes that they would rather have you in attendance than have a gift. They understand that you are traveling and most likely making arrangements out of your daily life to attend.
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Allison Silber is the founder of the wedding publication, Engaged & Inspired as well as a wedding planner/designer serving the San Francisco Bay Area. She loves Carmel Valley, drinks too much coffee, and styles everything she can get her hands on!
Ashley Smith is the wedding planner for Buzzworthy SF. She believes that purpose, craft, design, and strategy are all cohesive elements to produce a successful event. Ashley is available for weddings in California and worldwide. Her expertise is in the Bay Area, but her heart is in Mexico, where she is certified by the board of tourism to plan and work. If she is not in San Francisco planning weddings and being social, you'll find her on the beach at Playa Azul, Papaya Playa, or exploring the coast lines in Central America via bicycle.