Wedding etiquette: How do I get guests to RSVP on time?
by Stephanie

QUESTION: I just sent out my wedding invites. How do I get my guests to RSVP on time?

ASHLEY'S ANSWER: I send out the invitations strategically so that I have enough time (a few weeks) before the wedding to catch all the non-responders. I encourage my clients to reach out personally, a phone call always works best. Keeping a clear and easy to read spreadsheet of guests/responses is best, set it up when you send out invites, and keep track as each one comes in. Google doc’s are great if you’re sharing your list with your partner or anyone else simply because it’s live-format and easily accessible on almost every device.

GINA's ANSWER: No matter how hard you try, there will inevitably be guests that RSVP after the deadline. To cut down on the late RSVP-ers, follow up your invitation with an e-blast. About a week out from the RSVP deadline, gather a group of your best gals and call or text everyone that hasn’t RSVP’d. It will go fast if you divide and conquer!

Need more wedding etiquette, advice and tips? See previous etiquette posts here.

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Gina Borud is a newlywed from Boise, Idaho and has been blogging about her experience as a bride (and now wife!) since April. She owns her own graphic design and consulting business ( and works to help individuals, small businesses, nonprofits and startups with their marketing and communication needs. Gina enjoys perfecting her crab cake recipe, drinking wine and playing cribbage with her husband, Matt, and playing outside in the great Idaho outdoors. She’s an avid swimmer, runner, gardener and reality TV junkie.

Ashley Smith is the wedding planner for Buzzworthy SF. She believes that purpose, craft, design, and strategy are all cohesive elements to produce a successful event. Ashley is available for weddings in California and worldwide. Her expertise is in the Bay Area, but her heart is in Mexico, where she is certified by the board of tourism to plan and work. If she is not in San Francisco planning weddings and being social, you’ll find her on the beach at Playa Azul, Papaya Playa, or exploring the coast lines in Central America via bicycle.