How to communicate with your bridesmaids & free bridesmaid card printables!
by Stephanie

Photo by  Megan Welker

Photo by Megan Welker

Once you've gotten engaged, it's time to put those wedding planning wheels in motion. After checking off these important wedding to-do tasks and choosing your bridesmaids, it'll be time to start drilling down on things like your bridesmaid dresses, decor, food & drink, etc.

One major resource that many brides don't tap into at the onset of wedding planning is their bridal party. Your bridesmaids are in your corner and have agreed to be a support team throughout the wedding planning process — so use them to help make your to-do list go quickly! Trust me, in almost 99% of weddings, your bridesmaids (and even friends who aren't bridesmaids!) are excited for you and want to help make your life easier. And, asking for help never hurts!

Of course, the key to any great working relationship is communication, so if you are recruiting bridesmaids to help you with wedding planning tasks, make sure you're all on the same page. Our simple little tips for communicating with your bridesmaids will make planning a breeze. And stay tuned — we have an opportunity for some free bridesmaid card printables coming up, too!

1. Choose a method of communication, and stick with it

Once you start planning with your bridesmaids, you'll need one place to have and save all your digital wedding conversations. We recommend using the Wedding Party messaging feature for this — it's like a private place to group message your bridesmaids JUST about wedding stuff.

Photo by  Lindsay Madden

But no matter what method of communication you might use, here's the key: pick one and stick with it! You'll want to be able to look back at your conversations and reference something quickly if needed. Having ten different threads with your bridesmaids on email, text, Facebook and Wedding Party is a fast-track to disorganized wedding communication disaster. So once you get a conversation going somewhere, use that channel of communication for all planning moving forward.

2. Don't be afraid to over-communicate

So you're doling out small tasks to some of your bridesmaids — that's great! But everyone knows that sometimes important details can get lost in translation. When in doubt, don't be afraid to over-communicate with your bridesmaids to make sure you're on the same page. It can't hurt, and could prevent misunderstandings in the future!

3. Be direct, but kind

Your bridesmaids are on your team, and you want them to be happy about being a part of your wedding — not stressed! Part of communicating well and preventing misunderstandings is to be honest and direct, but of course, always kind.

For example, when I was booking my hair and makeup artists, I realized that I couldn't pay for all my bridesmaids (there are 6 of them) to get their hair and makeup done — it just wasn't in the budget. However, did want to let them know that if they were interested in getting and paying for either service, I could help them book it. Communicating this was a little tricky (how do I give them the option of booking their hair/makeup while also saying that they would need to pay for it? Awkward...), but in the end being direct, honest and kind was key. Nine times out of ten, if you explain your situation to your bridesmaids honestly, they're going to understand.

4. Don't forget to say "thank you"!

If your bridesmaids are playing a big part in helping you plan your wedding, it's important that you let them know you appreciate them! And really, you can never tell someone "thank you" enough!


5. Make time for your bridesmaids that aren't related to the wedding

Sure, your best gal friends are your bridesmaids and they are going to be knee-deep in wedding planning with you. But sometimes it can be easy to forget that your friends aren't thinking about your wedding 24/7! They have lives, jobs, interests and activities that they are juggling while helping you with wedding planning. Make sure that you're taking the time to talk with your bridesmaids about things outside your wedding — they'll appreciate it!

And now, the moment you've all been waiting for: the free printables! If you're still in the process of asking your bridesmaids, these adorable "will you be my bridesmaid" printables are just the thing you need. It's super easy to DIY them and send them off to your best gals for a sweet surprise in the mail.

Here's what you need to do:

1. Sign up for the Wedding Party newsletter here

2. Once you sign up, you'll be redirected to a page with a link to the free bridesmaid card printables

3. Click the link that says: "Download printable bridesmaid postcards". The download will start automatically.

4. Open the file and choose the bridesmaid postcard template that tickles your fancy.

5. Once you've found your favorite, just 1) print, 2) fold them in half and adhere with glue or tape, and 3) send them in the mail to your bridesmaids!

How are you communicating with your bridesmaids? Which wedding tasks will you be asking for their help on? Let us know in the comments!